Who Do You Think You Are?

Posted by signman

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Nick, that's pretty sad, didn't you get any info from your mother at all.

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To be totally brutal Signman - I didn't get much of anything from my mom at all..... only a visit once a week! Laugh! My father was never spoken of in front of me as a child........ and fairly recent enquiries around a few relatives I thought might have been 'in the know' have all proven fruitless. I get the feeling that the rellies are somehow staying faithful to my deceased mother and gran, to be honest, but I get the impression dad was only ever referred to in 'hushed voices' !!! Laugh, laugh!!

Posted by astoness

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hi ya nick and welcome...i know you said that your grandfather on your moms side was an orphan but is there no birth record for him..????..ive heard many times of folk who fathers are not down on the birth certs...its happening in my family research and as you say this makes it impossible to continue with the linage...but i did wonder if you could find out more about your moms dad....
lyn

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Hi Astoness - I'm sure I know you from somewhere else? Laugh!!

I've honestly not bothered to try and look into my grandfathers records as yet, as I've not had the time. It is something I will be doing, however.

It probably sounds daft, but I do feel somewhat sterile in finding out such information, as the people who I reckon 'should' know such things - i.e. my grandad himself, etc - are long gone now....... Obviously, people carry out research as a matter of interest for themselves, but I feel for those 'already gone' who I know would have loved to share in such data!! (Me being daft / sentimental again, I'm afraid..... but in being raised by my grandmother, I was instilled with an overwhelming sense of ancestors as real, living people, somehow. She regularly regaled me with tales of different characters - her great-aunt who was born with a terrible heart defect and shouldn't have lived past 14, but managed to last until her early 20's, for example..... She went out with a young chap who worked in a laboratory at Birm. Uni - who had terribly thick glasses, apparently - and she used to argue bitterly about him coming to see her as she knew she was gravely ill and there was no future for them together and so on and so forth!!! Laugh, laugh!!! After she passed away, he used to still come to the house and mope around like a lost puppy and so on).

All the best,

Nick

Interesting story Nick.

My youngest son is into ths in a big way but it threw up some very difficult things.

My Grandfather my mums dad left them all when they were very young.He went on to have several more children,hard to decide if we should tell my mum this.In the end I let my son decide what to do and he did tell her and my mum and her siblings went to his grave in order to say goodbye,mum decided she did not want to contact her half brothers and sisters.

Sad story.Hate me mum to be sad.

Posted by denise

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Interesting story Nick.

My youngest son is into ths in a big way but it threw up some very difficult things.

My Grandfather my mums dad left them all when they were very young.He went on to have several more children,hard to decide if we should tell my mum this.In the end I let my son decide what to do and he did tell her and my mum and her siblings went to his grave in order to say goodbye,mum decided she did not want to contact her half brothers and sisters.

Sad story.Hate me mum to be sad.

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I think there are going to be skeletons in every closet Denise, aren't there? Needless to say, if the scenario concerning your grandfather had occurred with an ancestor 150 years ago, everyone would have now laughed and passed him off as a bit of a rogue.... but, with living history, it's a different matter, isn't it. I'm rather blaze' about my parent query - couldn't give a hoot really, apart from as a matter of interest (see if I got my baldness from him, etc!!) - but different people are affected differently, of course. What a vexed situation you're in......

all the best,

Nick